I’m starting to dread these words almost as much as the question “how are you?”. It normally comes not long after I’ve explained how I have a long term illness, how it effects my life and how it’s not likely to improve.
After someone’s suggested something that might help. People tend to wish me on my way with the sentiment “I hope you feel better”.
I know what the person is trying to say, they’re trying to empathise with me and be hopeful about some future improvement in my daily experience.
The problem is though this sentiment is counter initiative to the understanding I have of my illness. Chronic illness is unlikely to improve and can only really be managed by daily management and hardwork. It rarely gives us a break and you rarely experience that lovely, rising sensation of feeling better, of something lifting away.
Despite what the person says, when someone says this to me part of me always feels like they haven’t really listened.